Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Who are YOU??


It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for something you are not.
~Andre Gide


Do you believe this? Would you rather be hated than liked? Have you ever sat back and watched the people around you and thought about how different they can be when others are around? How do you justify a person being one way with you and another way with someone else? Should one look at it from the perspective that different people bring out the best... or worst in a person?

I ask myself these things often, especially when observing the behavior of some of my friends and I often make excuses for them in my head when I see how different they are with others. But then, I'm guilty of it too. There is however, a fine line between adjusting to a situation and being flat out fake and pretentious. The truth is, we all do it. Our personalities can change slightly when we're with different people for the simple fact that we feed off of the persons we're with, and there is nothing wrong with that,its natural.

However, that line is crossed when persons completely change who they are, to fit in with others and as their friend, it can be a let down. As hard as it can be at times to be yourself, I find it can be more rewarding in the long run. It can be nice to meet people who are by definition weird and they simply do not care. They like being weird. A guy at school stood in front of me talking about random things,while eating paper. Who do you know that eats paper? Isn't that odd? Yes! But he proceeded to tell me how good it tasted. Now I'm not one who is shocked often by the behavior of others and that situation wasn't any different, I just found it sort of refreshing, and thought it rare that a person can be so confident in who they are, to the point that they will openly display such weird habits. He obviously isn't afraid to stand out.


3 comments:

*~Neesh~* said...

Ahhh, vry well written Tams! =)
And yesss, tht post hit right @ home. I know exactly what you mean, and i too can't deal with pretentious people... or as i like to call it, ppl who front lol. I'd definitely prefer to be hated for who i am rather than loved for who i am not... because at the end of the day, people can only be pretentious for soo long, and then you really get to see who they really are

Tammy said...

well aren't u insightful Neesh....and ye you can get tired of those people quickly and eventually the truth really does surface.

Danny said...

Lols , Paper eating dude...Mr Jenki.... Better not say ^_^ ... XD